14 weeks x 2 hour & 15 minute group meetings
For Feelings, Emotional Well-Being and Cognitive Behaviours
- Improve all your relationships (especially those with yourself, your past, your present, your future, your strengths, your boss, your friends …)
- Become more loved, loving and lovable
- Improve you understanding of feelings and emotions and especially how to process them.
To see who qualifies the most for the Compassion Course, check the Laundry List and if it resonates you belong. Also, check out the Promises. I’ve never met an ADD’er that does not qualify and/or benefit a lot.
The Laundry List – 14 Traits
- We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
- We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
- We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
- We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
- We live life from the viewpoint of victims, and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
- We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
- We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
- We became addicted to excitement. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue.”
- We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much. (Denial).
- We judge ourselves harshly and have a shallow sense of self-esteem.
- We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
- Alcoholism is a family disease; we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
- Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
Tony A., 1978
The 12 Promises for Graduates of The Compassion Course who are open to the work
- We will discover our real identities by loving and accepting ourselves.
- Our self-esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval daily.
- Fear of authority figures and the need to “people-please” will leave us.
- Our ability to share intimacy will grow inside us.
- As we face our abandonment issues, we will be attracted by strengths and become more tolerant of weaknesses.
- We will enjoy feeling stable, peaceful, and financially secure.
- We will learn how to play and have fun in our lives.
- We will choose to love people who can love and be responsible for themselves.
- Healthy boundaries and limits will become easier for us to set.
- Fears of failure and success will leave us, as we intuitively make healthier choices.
- With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly release our dysfunctional behaviours.
- Gradually, with our Higher Power help, we will learn to expect the best and get it.
The primary objective of this Emotional Wellbeing Course is to enable better relationships with everything and everyone in your life: self, time, money, work, the present, past and future, family and loved ones. It is the most powerful experience out there – especially for ADDers. If you are happy and content now, take it and you’ll live a more comfortable, fulfilled and content life.
ADHD Toronto Co-founder, Wayne O’Brien has served over 60 Compassion Courses